The sexual revolution didn't happen yesterday, but the topic remains taboo in many ways, so it's time to debunk 8 of the most popular female misconceptions!
This is reported by the Dr. Evin website.
Myth #1: You're the only one who's not having sex.
Ironically, this myth can haunt you throughout your life. When you're young, the mistaken belief that "everyone else has had it" can lead you to do rash things, and when you're older, the assumption that a lull in sex affects only you and your partner can provoke feelings of inferiority. Meanwhile, a number of surveys suggest that about one in three adults hasn't had sex at all in a year. Don't get hung up on quantity, take care of your physical and mental health, and discuss feelings with your partner to maintain a sense of intimacy and connection.
Myth #2: Sex = penetration
Experts point out that stereotypical behavior in bed can rob you not only of pleasure, but also of orgasm. Short foreplay and penetration aren't the only possible scenarios. A recent study found that 75% men experienced orgasm every time they had sexual intimacy, the same could only be boasted by 33% women. Don't be afraid to experiment and offer your partner different formats of stimulation. Maybe you just need a little more time together before climaxing - listen to yourself!
Myth #3: Men always want sex more than women do
The mismatch of desire is a fertile ground for conflicts over sex. Women are offended that their man does not want them, and men themselves feel ashamed if they are not allowed to satisfy their partner 24/7. At the same time, girls are embarrassed to take the initiative - not supposed to, if guided by stereotypes: they can attribute concern and "easy behavior". It's time to recognize that both women and men may or may not want sex. Fertility fluctuates not only due to external factors such as stress and fatigue, but also with age, it is perfectly normal.
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Myth #4: pain is a sign of good sex
This myth thrives for two reasons: men, having watched hardcore porn, believe that the partner should almost howl at their activity. And women, faced with discomfort during the first sex, may believe that it will always be like this, and do not realize the problem. Painful sex can have many root causes, from hormonal changes to trauma and gynecological ailments. By the way, men can also experience pain during intercourse. However, experts say that pain during sex is a reason to see a doctor.
Myth #5: Sex "on a schedule" is doomed
Be warned, associating sex with routine duty and marital obligation is harmful. But according to sexologists, there's nothing terrible about planning, and sometimes it's the only way to find time for intimacy. Imagine that you bought a season ticket to a fitness club, but you only want to visit the gym when you suddenly feel like it. It won't work, because sport takes time and the right conditions. It's the same with sex. Moreover, experts believe that a clear schedule can have a beneficial effect on your sex life: you and your partner will have time to adjust and prepare.
Myth #6: Natural lubrication is enough
While condom use by men (with lubricant, by the way) has long been the norm and commonplace, the use of lubricant remains exotic for many couples. Meanwhile, according to surveys, about 17% women aged 18 to 50 years report vaginal dryness during sex and more than 50% - after menopause. Dryness is also common in breastfeeding moms and when taking certain medications, including birth control. Lack of natural lubrication is far from indicating a lack of proper arousal or sensation, it is a harmful misconception.
Myth #7: arousal should be instantaneous
Sexual desire is usually divided into two types: spontaneous and reciprocal. Probably because of the influence of pop culture, namely the violent sex scenes in the movies, when the partners are turned on literally for a second and demolish everything in their path, it is believed that the first option is preferable. Let's be honest: the sudden desire for sex in a couple rarely occurs synchronously, especially in long-term relationships, so one of the partners has to adjust to the second. It is important to be flexible and try to go to the meeting, this is the case when the appetite comes at mealtime. Do not worry, the hormone of happiness will do its job.
Myth #8: You have less / more / differently than everyone else
School biology lessons hardly allow you to form a realistic idea about the "exemplary" appearance of external genitalia. It would seem that in the age of the Internet it is enough to type the appropriate query into a search engine, but even here you will be disappointed: the standards of the porn industry are far from the real statistics. As a result, even adults suffer from complexes. Well, to lift your spirits, try consulting medical encyclopedias. Variants of normality are so many that you hardly need to worry about your data. If the question of "normality" still causes concern, make an appointment to see a specialized doctor.
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