A woman who got married less than a month ago found out what her spouse was doing at someone else's bachelor party and sought advice from sex coach Rich Juzwiak. His response is published by Slate.
This is reported by the Dr. Evin website.
According to the girl who addressed the publication, her husband visited a strip club at the bachelor party of his sister's fiancé. The author of the letter admitted that it broke her heart and now she cannot forgive her spouse.
"He said he didn't do anything like that there, but he was at the club until 2am. I am disgusted by the very idea of strip clubs where women are treated as sex objects, can't get these thoughts out of my head," she wrote.
Juzwiak said the case is a good reason to check your expectations against reality.
"There are people who like sex with people they love and sex with strangers, for very different reasons. Objectification isn't always bad (there's room for it even within respectful relationships). Strip clubs can give a sense of freedom to people on both sides of the pole. They can be an alternative way for the viewer to experience something like sex without crossing the line," said a sex coach.
The specialist encouraged spouses to discuss their differing views on leisure time and personal boundaries if this dialog has not already occurred.
"While I think relaxing about the pleasures our partners want is often the best way to handle certain unavoidable situations, it's okay for you not to think that way. You shouldn't have to suffer, and if you feel that his going to a strip club violates any of your agreements, say so and work out mutually acceptable rules of behavior," he concluded.
Earlier, Juzwiak evaluated the grapefruit lyfhak for oral sex. According to him, the experiment can be pleasant, but with the condition of using a condom so that the juice does not get into the urethra.
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